Saturday, July 29, 2006

Again??? But You Just Got Off The Phone With Her!

Why is it that men don't understand the need for a woman to talk to her best friend 500 times a day? Is it that uncommon? Am I the only one who does it? And if I'm not the only one, then why do I feel so guilty?

When I get off the phone with my best friend, Ed always asks the same question, "How's she doing? What did you talk about?"

And my answer is always the same, "Fine. Nothing."

What he doesn't understand is that we don't need to talk about anything. Shit, half the time even we don't even know what we talked about. Most of the stuff we talk about is kept from the men. Her husband knows nothing and my boyfriend knows nothing; that is truly the best way. The less they know, the better.

Her husband doesn't get it either, us talking so many times a day, but at least he accepts it a little better. He doesn't ask questions. Half the time, he doesn't even acknowledge our presence if we are talking in front of him. And we don't miss a beat changing subjects smoothly if he walks into the room at the wrong time. Of course, we have all known each other for twenty years, so he's used to it. Doesn't get it, but is used to it.

Like Oprah said in her magazine this month, in which Friendship is the theme, "If you don't like my best friend, then you don't like me. That's not negotiable. It's just a deal breaker. Not liking my best friend - forget it! You gots to go!"

I am not by any means implying that Eddie doesn't like my best friend. He does. The great thing about him is that he likes all of my friends. He's just having trouble learning how to share me, so he needs a little training.

For him, it's going to be like boot camp all over again. Tough, but hopefully worth it.

1 comment:

Mise en Place said...

The thing Honey has going for him it that he DOES understand, "If you don't like my best friend, then you don't like me. That's not negotiable. It's just a deal breaker. Not liking my best friend - forget it! You gots to go!" This I think he understood that first day on the boat! Well, the wet t-shirt contest didn't hurt either, lol!

Man oh man, fun times!!

Love you!!