About a week ago, I ran into a girl I hadn't seen in 13 years. I was buying perfume for my mother and went into a local department store. We used to work together in cosmetics at this very store, I at Estee Lauder, she at Clinique. I was surprised to see her but it was a good surprise. She's a great woman. Always smiling, always in a good mood and always letting out her great laugh. She hadn't changed a bit.
I said to her, "I heard you had a baby..." and she said, "My baby is now twelve." Oh. Well, it had been a long time, I couldn't possibly have known. She caught me up on what all the girls we used to work with were doing and who she still kept in touch with. I was telling her all about Eddie, my nephews and Mommy.
"Mommy??" she said, laughing.
"Yeah, Mommy." I always call my mother "Mommy", especially when talking to friends.
I guess a lot of people might think it's odd, since I'm forty-two, but what should I call her? "Mom" seems so sixteen-year-old boy, "Ma" so unfinished and "Mother" so uptight, formal and cold. I used to know a girl who called her mother, "Mother".
She was from the South, so I suppose that's normal down there, but every time I heard her talk of or to her mother, "Mother bought me the most fabulous couch this week." or "Mother. I told you I'd pick up Daddy this afternoon, so don't you worry." it always sounded so disconnected and like she didn't even really like her all that much. Like she was talking about a stranger. Or to a stranger. It's just weird.
Calling my mother mother, would be like calling her Helga. It doesn't fit her, it's not warm and loving and it's like calling her by a stranger's name. "Mommy" is just so loving and sweet and encompasses all that a child really feels about their mother...even when pushed to the edge of annoyance by said mother.
I will always call my mother Mommy, no matter how old I get. Besides, like my step-father says, "Mother is only half a word."
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