I found this illustration while flipping around the Power of Positivity website.
It was among several drawn by Gemma Correll to accompany an article about anxiety and depression. Luckily, I've never suffered from either of those disorders, but I did chuckle when I saw the drawing because it made me realize that as I get older I say no to a lot of things.
My friend Kim is usually the one asking me to do those things.
"You wanna go to Laff's on Saturday night?"
"What about Downtown Saturday Night?"
"Ugh. I've been so many times. I don't think so."
"How about the 4th Avenue Street Fair?"
"Why? So I can wander through crowded vendor booths looking at things I have no intention of buying while being harassed for money by homeless people with dogs? No."
"Well, what about the mall?"
"I don't really need anything. And it's so far." It's ten minutes from my house.
"How about we hike Catalina State Park?"
"Did you just meet me yesterday? Besides, two people died hiking in the park earlier this week. Who goes hiking in the fucking blazing heat?? No."
"Wanna have Sweet Tomatoes for lunch?"
"Really? A salad bar restaurant? I guess. I'm not really in the mood for salad, but if you want to go.... Really?"
Don't get me wrong, Kim and I do a lot of things together. But I do find myself saying no to a lot of other things. It's not like I'm sleeping the day away or eating Cheetos on the couch, I'm just really more of a homebody and prefer to entertain myself (or others) IN my home.
My entire life for the last twelve years - with the exception of the last few months - has consisted of being somewhere new almost every day. I'm always on the move. I'm always doing new things. And I love that. Miss it, actually. But now that I'm home almost five days a week, I'm kinda getting used to being here.
Some people have a hard time saying no. They need suggestions on how to master the task, or learn how to do it. I'm not one of those people. I'm not opposed to a "social life" or making new friends, but I'm very selective about who those people might be and where I have to go to meet them, and I don't like doing things I don't LOVE. My time is valuable to me and I want to spend it mostly doing the things I like to do.
I need to start working on a list of things I can say yes to.
But I have a feeling it's going to be a very short one.
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2015: From I Love Lucy To The Lily Of The Valley
2014: We Were Ear!!
2013: This Disturb's Me
2012: Not Sure The Money Will Follow
2011: Trucking Al Fresco
2010: 3000 Miles To Squidland
2009: It Could Be Africa If It Weren’t For The Schlitterhahn
2008: How To Ace A Job Interview
2007: Diver Down
2006: Day Tripping
2005: Nipple Rock